Who’s on Your Team?
Jael McHenry on Feb 04 2013 | Filed under: Uncategorized
The stereotype of the writer is the lonely artist starving in his garret, right? Hunched over The Work, completely alone with his (or her, or your) thoughts?
The truth is, at some point in the process, most writers work with someone else in some capacity. You might collaborate with people who are actually involved in the writing part (like co-writers or critique partners) and/or those who play some role in helping you get whatever you’ve written out to readers (like publicists or cover artists). Certain types of writing tend to be more collaborative than others – screenwriting is not a great profession for loners – but journalists, novelists, short story writers, even poets will find at one stage or another, it can be handy to have some people around who complement your strengths and shore up your weaknesses.
These team members tend to fall into three categories, and ideally, over the course of your career you should have all three types on your team:
- Professional and writerly. These are people whose job it is to work with you and support your writing. Agents and editors, for example. The fact that you pay them doesn’t mean that the relationship is necessarily mercenary. Acquiring editors nearly always talk about “falling in love” with a book, and if you’re lucky, your editor is just as passionate an advocate for your book as you are. Your agent, too, can be not just a powerful ally, but your fan, protector, cheerleader, coach, confessor, and friend. The fact that they’re professionals means that they have interests that are aligned with, but not identical to, yours. That can be a source of frustration but it can also be the core of strength you need to truly succeed – it helps to have someone who can be objective about your work when you can’t.
- Personal and writerly. These are the fellow writers who form your support network, the people who can weigh in on subjects that concern you because they’ve been there themselves. The writing community is nothing short of amazing. Beta readers, critique partners, other authors published by your same imprint, writers to go on retreats with, authors you follow on Twitter – there are so many other writers who can provide insight or assistance when you need it, you’re doing yourself a huge disservice if you stay alone in your garret (although an internet-equipped garret can provide the best of both worlds.)
- Personal and not writerly. This is the category most often overlooked, but it’s just as essential to your career and your sanity. You must, must, must have some people in your life who have no particular personal stake in your writing. You can drive yourself crazy with the weirdness of modern publishing, the inside-baseball intricacies, the stuff that seems incredibly important at the time (“What do you mean, my release has been pushed back an entire week? It’s a disaster!!!”) but may or may not truly matter in the big picture. If you’re tempted to spend a day flipping out over asking a more established author for a blurb, the best person to have lunch with might be your friend who doesn’t know or care what a blurb even is. Perspective is a huge boon, and it’s your family and friends who often provide that.
This isn’t to say that you aren’t the person ultimately responsible for everything you write. You are. And in that, you’re alone, but on the journey, you should really have some company. So who’s on your team?

























This is true! We need a team of writers and nonwriters for support to keep us encouraged, motivated, and grounded. Writer buddies remind me to take my writing seriously but still have fun with it, and my nonwriter buddies remind me there’s a whole life out there beyond my desk to explore so I stay inspired and have something to write about!
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You make great points– finding the people who can support you and being that kind of person in someone’s life is rewarding. Balancing that all with my tendency towards introversion is the key. I find I don’t have a need for a large circle, just a few key people I can trust.
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I do have a team but it’s been hard to cobble it together. I agree with my friend Julie (who commented earlier) — blancing all the team building and support with my basic introversion is tough. Add that to many solitary hours at the dining room table, tapping away, and all I can say is thank goodness for the Internet. Still, I need some outside friends, who I can really sit down with and have heart to hearts! I agree with Julie on this, too: I just need a few key people I can trust.
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So true! I love your #3 . . . sometimes I wish my non-writer friends understood writing (and the world of writing) better. But most of the time, it’s just so nice to hang with people who don’t get it. It’s a breath of fresh air.
Thanks, Jael!
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Great post!
Author Julia Cameron describes this same concept in her wonderful workbook The Artist’s Way. She encourages people to draw a circle, and write the names of those who are supportive of your art inside the circle, and those who are not supportive outside.
You may want to try this, writers, the result is often surprising!
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So true! I don’t know where the myth of the lonely writer came from, but it’s always interesting to read more about iconic writers of the past (Woolf, Hemingway, etc.) and realize that they were never “in it alone.”
Personally, I wouldn’t be where I am today (a happy, well-adjusted aspiring writer) without group #3 (parents, best friends, boyfriend) and I wouldn’t be the writer I am today without group #2 (the WeHeartYa.com girls).
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I often feel like I don’t actually have a very big team around me, and then reading this post makes me realise that there are in fact lots of people who are not on the payroll but who without them it wouldn’t be possible to have produced what I have. I have lots of people who are beta readers, who I know will give me an honest review, and a bunch of writer friends who help me out with opinions and advice. This helps so much for a new writer who is at the beginning, especially.
Plus I just got an artist to redo my first cover, and the improvement is amazing. Help is always a plus point, and I’m not sure anybody who can truly be considered ‘a great’ ever 100% got there on their own.
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I’m lucky to say have all three. Thank you for reminding me how important they are.
I’d also include the writers of WU in this mix. Although we’ve never met, I look foward to your support every day, and learn so much from your insight. Thank you, thank you all.
Denise Willson
Author of A Keeper’s Truth
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I feel so lucky to have great teammates in each one of these categories, especially number 2. Over the past few years I think I hit the lottery of critique groups–I have 3, and each are 4-person groups that I met at separate conferences. Despite many of us moving away, I still keep in touch with writers from the first two groups and meet every month with the writers in the 3rd. They’ve read my last two novels (several times, through several drafts!) and have kept me sane by helping me deal with setbacks and celebrate successes.
And I LOVE group 3. So true that we need people who aren’t in publishing to keep things in perspective. “If you’re tempted to spend a day flipping out over asking a more established author for a blurb, the best person to have lunch with might be your friend who doesn’t know or care what a blurb even is.” (That made me crack up.)
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I love point number three, because sometimes I think we forget about it. I have people who indirectly support my writing. They may help me make time to write, or takeover a responsibility for me.
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I think the concept of a tortured starving artist, writer or otherwise, has become a urban legend. Whenever we read in the news about a writer, i.e. J.K Rowling, who brought forth Harry Potter whilst on a train, everyone is awestruck. The truth is, without the team of people who came pre-creation and post-completion of her ms, would she have even achieved anything? It’s not a slam on her talent, but a observation that no one gets to where they are going in the writing world without a network of support, guidance and professional leadership. Great post Jael. I know that right now the two greatest team members I have are my seven year son who grants me a few hours of peace a day to write and my husband who kicks my butt if I don’t write at all.
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Great stuff, but don’t forget Professional and Unwriterly!
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The writing world has changed from that stereotype, no doubt. Like the groups in your post!
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The last category–personal and unwriterly–is the most important for me. Writers groups will come and go, and you can always find some writerly e-friends, but it’s very difficult to find a woman who’s on Team You who’ll give you the writing time and support you need. I think I’ve got one now, and for prospective ones I always mention the Stephen King example. The famous story is that he stopped writing Carrie and threw it away, and his wife picked it out of the garbage and told him to finish it, with her help at the girly parts. He did, of course, and Doubleday bought it at auction for $400,000 in 1974, which today would probably be about a million bucks. And that’s what I need: someone who’ll give me the writing time, support me when I need it, and pick my stuff out of the garbage (literally or figuratively) when necessary.
May we all be lucky enough to find such a person.
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