Putting Ourselves Out There
Ray Rhamey on May 19 2011 | Filed under: Business, Inspirations
My (gulp) Internet radio debut is today, Thursday, May 19. They’re going to ask about the ideas in my novel, a speculative political thriller titled We the Enemy. It happens on The New American Dream Radio Show. The show starts at 7:45 pm Eastern time and the guest interview comes about a half hour into the show. Look for the listen live link.
Okay, so I’m a little nervous about this. Not a lot, but this is an unknown for me. What will the questions be? Can I adlib successfully without “uh-ing” all over the place? Because of the controversial nature of some of the ideas that I know I’ll be asked about, will I be subject to attack on the web sometime later?
Don’t get me wrong, I’m also excited by the opportunity and glad to do it. The interview has come about because one of the producers of the show, Chuck Gregory, read my novel and responded to its underlying ideas. He not only wrote a reader review on Amazon, he asked me about appearing on his show to talk about the ideas.
(Side note: interestingly to me, most of the reader reviews focus on the dual nature of the book in a positive way. One reader said, “We The Enemy is an unusual novel, both an action-packed thriller and a rational dissection of our legal system.” Don’t you love it when readers get it?)
This means you, too
Anyway, the broader scope of my little foray into the world of Internet radio is how we authors are now exposed and accessible in ways that were unknown just a few years ago. The Internet is, of course, the culprit/benefactor.
As Therese and Kathleen know, just having the WU blog attracts not only superior writers such as you, it also attracts trolls, those nasties that post comments intended to harm. I’ve had my share of them on my blog, Flogging the Quill. Even as short a time ago as the ’90s, about the only nastiness that would come an author’s way would be via a letter or a negative review.
It’s been perhaps a couple of years since this happened, but bestseller Tess Gerritsen, who blogs as well as writes excellent thrillers, stopped blogging altogether because of an unjustified attack by another writer. Tess was hurt and shocked, and withdrew for months. As a regular reader of her blog, I was disappointed—and then very glad when she returned. Her current post is about how her new novel is also about her growing up as an Asian American. She often gives good insights into the publishing biz, too.
As some of you have no doubt experienced, just being a published author whose book is on Amazon.com can make you feel like a bull’s-eye has been painted on your book cover. I was subject to a coordinated attack on Amazon a few years ago by someone that I didn’t know but who decided he hated me a lot. He rounded up several friends and they posted flaming “reviews” on the pages for two of my long-out-of-print novels. Luckily, I was able to make the case to Amazon that it was a deliberate attack, and they removed the nastiness.
If you, as I do, try to promote your work on the Internet via a blog, or guest appearances on blogs, or interviews, you’ve opened a portal into the decidedly schizophrenic nature of putting yourself out there. Most likely it will be mostly positive and rewarding. But then a troll will come along. There are some truly vicious people out there who hide behind web anonymity.
What to do?
Therese’s advice to me once upon a time was to ignore them. I have, in the past, responded to troll attacks on my blog, but she was right. Ignore them, delete them if you can. I had a little fun recently when I edited a troll’s nasty comment on my blog and turned it into praise for my work. He/she hasn’t been back.
I think that we need to simply believe in ourselves and our worth as writers and authors. Objectively, I’m certain that we can all point to many people who are with us, and very, very few who are not.
So go ahead, put yourself out there, but be sure to gird your feelings with the armor of your self-worth and the value of the work you do.
For what it’s worth.
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From personal experience I find that completely and utterly ignoring the flamer/troll tends to have a great effect. The point of trolling is get a reaction, which then gives the troll a buzz. If this fails they get bored and move on. (Which is never nice for the person they move on to)
It’s not always easy to ignore, especially if it feels personal, but ignoring really does work. Only this week a tweeter attempted to drag me into an argument simply because I was having a completely separate conversation with who they were attempting to rile. They threatened that if I didn’t engage in what they were saying they would put my twitter username on their blog as someone who is evil, condones abuse etc etc. I blocked them, went to their blog, found the post with my name on and reported the post to blogger. I haven’t been back to check if anything happened and I really don’t care. That person is inconsequential to my life. I recognise them for what they are and am indifferent to their rantings.
I wish you lots of luck with the radio show. I hope you settle into it and find yourself enjoying it and I also hope you don’t find yourself a target afterwards. It’s a shame people get their kicks that way.
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Here here. We just can’t waste energy thinking about what people might say, or how people might react. Consist advice coming from WU posts is “Write your story” and let the rest happen. I try to focus on saying what I have to say since that’s all I have control over.
I’m sure you’ll do great on the radio. You’re a pro!
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Congrats on the radio interview! It sounds exciting, and great exposure for a fascinating novel.
I agree with the “don’t feed the trolls” stance. It does take a lot of confidence, in yourself and your book, not to get rolled by the negativity out there. I also think that if you try to convince trolls that they’re wrong, you are risking getting caught up in a drama that is pointless and impossible to control. Better to just avoid it.
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This post is very timely for me. While I’m not published yet, I recently created a blog and website specifically for public consumption. It’s really frightening to voluntarily and deliberately give up one’s anonymity, even on such a small scale. I’m sure it means I’ll have to deal with trolls eventually and it’s good to have such sound advice in advance.
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Once upon a time, I attended the Worlds Worst Critique Group* (*not the actual name), and after I’d finished reading my work, there was a silence. “Something feels wrong,” I thought. And then, the attacks began.
Some vocal members said I’d done everything wrong and it needed to be completely redone, and it had been boring. Oh, and also, they demanded to know what happened in the next chapter because it wasn’t fair of me to end on a cliffhanger … surely I was trying to “trick them” into reading more.
So now, when I see “helpful” advice on the internet, I try to remember the faces from the WWCG. Faces strained, spit flying, determined to show everyone how much they’re right and how much you’re wrong. All to *help* you, or in a review to help their fellow reviewers to not waste time or money, I suppose.
I had the privilege of seeing Anne Perry at a writer’s conference, and something she said stuck with me: Some people will try to tear you down because they feel small. In their past, someone did the same to them. It’s not right and it’s not fair, but that’s why.
So, in answer to the trolls and the “helpers”, I try to go forth and be even nicer to my fellow writers/humans, because I’ve found that even 1 good review can outweigh 5 bad ones.
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Hope the radio interview is enjoyable! What an opportunity, but I’m sure I’d be nervous, too. I do get nervous with blogging, tweeting, and leaving comments–partly because I’m afraid I’ll attract trolls but also because I’m afraid I’ll be misunderstood. I’ve never been attacked per se, but I’ve had people leave comments on my blog that are written in a way that they could be interpreted in a less than flattering way–and about the seemingly-weirdest things. So I can only imagine that in a larger venue (like radio) something might strike someone in an unexpected way. It’s worrisome to me, but I’ll take your advice and continue to put myself out there and gird (I LOVE THAT WORD!!) my feelings! Thanks for great advice!
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I’m with you on the online armor. I wish it weren’t necessary, but it is. I hope your radio interview went/goes well, Ray! It sounds like a wonderful opportunity.
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Armor is a definite necessity. I enjoyed reading about how you dealt with negative reviews.
Congratulations on your radio interview!
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Luckily I am not high profile enough for someone to be that bothered to attack me yet.
If someone is barracking you it is most likely to be a symptom of some malaise in their own life and nothing to do with you personally. It’s a form of bullying and an outlet for their own problems. To ignore them is the best thing you can do because it is best not to get involved with their problems.
Hope everyone is well.
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It does amuse me that people spend so much time with negativity on the internet. I hardly get a chance to say enough positive things about the work of others, so I cannot imagine being so riled up that I’d want to waste the time I do have bashing someone!
Hoping you have a great response to your interview, and congrats on the success of your book!
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I simply do not understand why anyone would put so much energy into being so hurtful. Sigh.
Well, I made a Trolls and Other Unhappy Things folder in my Gmail, and just the name of the folder makes me smile, so I think they lose. :P
Hope the radio stuff went well!
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Caught your interview last night, Ray, and you sounded great. Very natural, interesting, and no maniacal “uh-ing” in sight (or sound.) No false flattery just because it was your birthday — but no lie, you were the best part of the program. Definitely an outlet you should continue to pursue :-)
Arggg…internet trolls :-( Ignoring is certainly the way to go, though admittedly there are times it’s a challenge. (Kind’ve like you have to go off and chew some nails in private to deflect the urge of your fingers to tap out angry responses on the keyboard.) And then there are those trolls who just make you laugh, although that clearly hasn’t been their intention. Case in point, I got a two word comment on my blog last week that had me smiling for hours afterward: “Idiot writer”
LOL. Really?!
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Thanks for a useful and reassuring post, Ray and I hope your interview went well yesterday. I’m sure you rocked it. Like a few of the others, I haven’t experienced trolling yet (not on our book’s blog, anyway) but when I do, the best bit about it is it’ll remind me of this post and I’ll come back and re-read it instead of rising to the trolls.
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Thank you, Barbara, for the feedback. One never knows. I wasn’t aware of the full nature of the show, but was glad to have had the opportunity. And “idiot writer,” indeed. : )
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Good luck in your interview! And “away with the negativity” is the attitude to have. The comment “be sure to gird your feelings with the armor of your self-worth and the value of the work you do” was the best advice yet!
Patti
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My blog is too new to have attracted trolls yet: only three posts in. But I now suspect that the comment I approved, and responded to, earlier this morning was from a bot. How to tell? What to do?
I hope the interview went well.
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Very helpful post – useful pointers on how to deal with Internet trolls! So far, I haven’t had the experience (I’m too small for that!) but it’s good to know how to react (or rather not react)…
It’s interesting because all this reminds me on how one has to act at a big cocktail party or any large gathering where you walk in and on’t know anybody. Best strategy is smile, smile, smile and respond positively…just like what’s needed for Internet.
This said, Internet still scares me. And there are all sorts of bizarre things that happen either with one’s computer or the waves out there (for example, today I can’t get into my blogger account, God only knows why)
So it’s nice to hear the voice of reason like yours!
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I began my own blog last week, after close to six months of fretting that my first post was going to be so terribly wrong that I never got a single reader, or would be drowned under the rising tide of trolls.
In the end, I stopped being to be the super-profound writer that I’m not and just let it flow. My attitude is that if people don’t like what I’m writing about, either right now or further down the track, they can suggest something better. Of course, at this moment in time, I’m still introducing myself. People will either like what I do, or find another blog to read!
Congratulations on the radio interview, Ray!
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